We were talking about suicide prevention, a cause close to her heart, because she'd lost a daughter to suicide, and recently a friend as well (Orrin McClellan, who we wrote about recently on this site.) We were talking about suicide, and how Army and Marine numbers are still up, despite prevention strategies. She said, pointedly, that she'd learned that veterans (and others) who are struggling with suicide need "three things" in their lives to keep from killing themselves. What they need are: "a reason to live, a way to live, and a purpose to live for."
Salon magazine had an excellent but gut-wrenching article earlier this week by Mark Benjamin called "A Predictable Suicide at Camp Lejeune," subtitled, "A doctor warned that mental health care for violent, disturbed Marines was inadequate. Sgt. Tom Bagosy proved it." The story profiled the violent death of Marine Sgt. Tom Bagosy, 25, on the way out of the Deployment Health Center. (Bagosy leaves a wife and two children.) Less than a year ago, Salon had run another article by Mark Benjamin about a Marine Corps psychiatrist, Dr. Kernan Manion, and his specific, whistle-blowing warnings about the inadequacy of mental health care at Camp Lejeune -- warnings he took all the way to the president, and seemingly for which he was fired a few days after voicing them. (Here's the link to that earlier article, including his warnings.)
Marines initiated a new suicide prevention program last year; but suicides have only increased. They lead the services at this point. Army numbers are up as well. According to a report released Thursday, and carried on CNN, 32 soldiers killed themselves in June, "the highest number in a single month" since Vietnam. Twenty-one of of the soldiers were active duty, 11 were inactive Guard or Reserve; and seven of them killed themselves while deployed. A quote from the article, "Army officials admit they still haven't answered the question of why troops are committing suicide at a record rate."
While Marines sometimes mock the Army's slogan of an "Army of One" -- preferring instead to focus on the group -- the reality is, both branches are seeing heavy combat and neither one is excelling at helping troops not commit suicide. New programs get trotted out, new initiatives, new videos. But none of them are getting the job done: not alone, not together. Troubled troops and veterans are simply not listening; or not hearing what they need to hear. And what would that be?
Well, Mass. General Hospital is having their second annual conference right now on the "Complexities and Challenges of PTSD and TBI," and they're doing a great job "Tweeting" the speakers' points in real time. Here are a few excerpts of note, starting with a crucial one: "Only 30% of troops self-identify as needing help before committing suicide -- despite all the proactive intervention points." And again: Only 42% of troops who screened positive for mental health problem actually sought help from doc or spiritual advisor." PTSD is initially difficult to distinguish in troops because upon their return home, "initial relief and euphoria" at being back can mask it. But over time,"After 8-10 weeks and adjusting to a different life schedule at home, symptoms start to present."
This fits right in with the stories you hear from people coming back, that they don't want to talk about it or think about it (PTSD); they just want to get on with their lives, and fit right back in to where they were before. It's later on, when this adjustment doesn't work, that things get more stressful. High unemployment can't help: veterans' unemployment is significantly higher, in the recession, even that the national average. And troops have gone from being highly focused on the battlefield and engaged in their warrior purpose to losing that and perhaps not being able to replace it immediately with another. They've also gone from a high level of camaraderie with their buddies often to being quite geographically separated from those they were close to when deployed. Marriages and family life can be rocky as well. The relationship they were dying to get back to on the battlefield may have evaporated by the time they got home; or not make the adjustment intact. Again from the MGH conference: "78% of marriages end in divorce for first-time deployment troops."
Against all these backdrops of difficulty -- and an awareness that the "gold standard" of treatment is still talk therapy and psychopharmaceuticals -- the problem persists, compounded by sleeping pills that can be dangerous, and the ever-present self-medication strategies of alcohol and street drugs. It's hard to get the formula right for the correct medication(s) at the correct dosage(s), and until that happens, veterans frequently talk about feeling numb, in a stupor, not feeling like themselves, etc. Vets don't necessarily want to talk about what they've been through -- except perhaps with one another, and even then, not that much -- and ignorant questioning about how many people they've killed while they were over there, etc., just exacerbates the problem. So enough of the bad news...of which there is plenty...what can vets possibly do to increase their chances of surviving and adjusting? Because I highly doubt it's gonna be another prevention video or poster that does the trick, however well-meaning.
If everyone wants an easy answer, maybe they won't like this. But it seems to be that it's time to return to replacing one purpose (warrior) with another (warrior on the homefront), and putting some time and thought, effort and resources into what that will be. One veteran who made the transition from serving to the fire department, felt he literally replaced his one purpose, and one set of buddies with another; and that "substitution of purpose," as it were, was what helped him survive. But not every vet will be so lucky, or have or make that opportunity.
If we take a look back at the Chalmers quote that opened this discussion, what are the three "grand essentials" for happiness (i.e., well-adjustment) that he cites? Something to do, love and hope for. And what are the three things that help a vet prevent suicide, according to the suicide counselor vet? Three very similar things: a reason to live, a way to live, and a purpose to live for. Veterans are warriors...and cast aside from their purpose, without an effective way to replace that immediately, it's possible they flounder. As a society, as those who "support" our troops -- whether professionally or personally -- what can we do to make sure that they have all three? With a little reflection, we can see where they had them in combat. Something to do (be a warrior); something to love (family, country, buddies, the mission); and something to hope for (winning; getting back home alive; reuniting with family and friends; keeping your buddies alive). What I suspect, sadly, is that from those adrenaline-charged heights, life on the home front, potentially unemployed, over-medicated, and disconnected from family and friends, there can become a time when there's not enough "reason" to live; there's not enough way to live; and there's definitely a loss of purpose to live for.
A better use of resources than more videos, etc., though would be: focusing on what would it take to give veterans their purpose back? And not entirely how could be do it for them, but how could they join in that mission themselves? Every veteran affects the lives of 50 other people, minimum; so whatever happens with them back on the home front is a ripple effect. Let's focus some energy on the topic of continuing life with a purpose; versus watching on with sadness and despair the continuing tragedy of young vets (and older) taking their own lives. They've given too much; and they deserve so much better. So while pep talks on prevention and prescription pharmaceuticals don't seem to be doing the total job when it comes to suicide prevention, maybe it's time to bring back talk about purpose -- and how to continue that successfully, after the deployment is over and the uniform is hung up for the time being.
In a related side note, apparently mental health plummets when distressed individuals can't "do" to solve their situations with personal effort. There's been talk in the news lately about mental health issues soaring in the Gulf states after the BP eco-disaster, and that money needs to be set aside to help with those; but in that, there's also discussion of what happened after Hurricane Katrina. Apparently, after the hurricane hit, those affected started immediately to do what they could to restore their lives. (Think of all the news footage we've seen of residents after large-scale disasters, sawing up downed trees, hauling lumber to shore up makeshift housing, etc.) What's now surfacing anecdotally are stories about while this busy-ness after the disaster was therapeutic for people -- helped them to get their minds off the tragedy by putting themselves back to work -- when FEMA came through and made everything grind to a halt while they inventoried the situation -- people's grief and despair rose up in waves, with nothing to "do" to distract them.
Much is made of the "adrenaline rush" of combat, and how it's very hard (hmmn, likely impossible) to match that in civilian life -- but at the same time, there's also definite "purpose" -- of getting the job done, of keeping your buddies alive, etc. After combat...it's suddenly very quiet, and boring by comparison. "War is hell, but peace is boring!" some veterans joke. Cast adrift without the shared common and energizing purpose of combat, in their early 20s, veterans need quickly to find something to "do" that matters to them -- something they can live for, love and enjoy, that satisfies them and makes life worth living. Sadly, far too many people are checking out when they can no longer find a reason to live, and in tragic stories like that of Marine Sgt. Tom Bagosy, or Orrin McClellan, you get the impression they don't feel like they had any other choice. Tragic. Not just for them, but for the people they left behind, whose lives will also forever be marked by this experience. Such a tremendous loss...and possibly, preventable: If not for them, at least for some others. Let's try.
