How Do Veterans Want Us to Listen to Them?

As the Christian existentialist philosopher (how do you combine those two widely divergent concepts in a single sentence, or a person? Ahhh, never mind) Paul Tillich once said, "the first duty of love is to listen."  The question of the hour should be, how do returning combat veterans from Afghanistan and Iraq want us to listen to them?  What would that be like? Undoubtedly, with compassion, concern, empathy over sympathy, nonintrusive listening versus active probing, and certainly, without judgment.  As we learn more, we'll share it.  Undoubtedly many veterans (especially from Vietnam, and others who have been home a while) will have ideas on how best to listen and care.  On what listening would look, feel, sound like to them.